Women can be extravagantly moody. They can be happy with simple things, then can be mad at nothing, and such. It’s a common joke that women tend to see their husbands as children, but can that be true? In a study done by Today, almost half of the moms see this as true; they would rate their stress levels at 8.5 out of 10. Moreover, these moms said that the “stress” comes from their husbands, not the children. 46% of the 7, 000 included in the study has said this.
In the study, one of the common roots of the stress is because of their lack of time for everyday things.
However, there are also things that these women’s husbands cause them to be more stressed.
A 7-year-old is going to be a 7-year-old. But a 35-year-old acting like a 7-year-old is more stressful, because they should know better,” mom Deno Fleno said.
Compressing time to accomplish household tasks is another major source of stress. Over 75% of moms feel that they need to finish most of the household and parenting chores. Because their husband could either be sleeping, watching TV, or playing with the kids. About one in five moms are stressed out on a daily basis because their spouse doesn’t provide enough help with the household tasks. They’re not even asking them to do everything, just a little bit of help would do.
Where does this come from?
Well, TODAY also had a survey that is pointing out to the dads. two-thirds of fathers wants to have acknowledgement when they help out with parenting tasks. A sort of like a pat in the back but verbal and kind of exciting.
How can this be solved, then?
It can definitely be understood that even both are working full time, everything can be split evenly. Mothers could ask their husbands for help and they can sort of give credit for what their husbands had done.
In this way, they’ll be able to manage and of course ensure that they will not just have a happy house, but well-raised children as well. Hal Runkel, a 41-year-old father of two kids and Atlanta therapist says that the problem is not the chores, not the men, but the marriage.
He says that marriage is a lot of work compared to parenting and of course, it’s somehow true. As time passes by, the sweetness subsides. He and his wife overcame this as they were highschool sweethearts for 20 years and running now. As Hal needs to travel a lot for work, he says that whenever he comes back home, his wife says
It was a lot easier when you weren’t here… But she always follows it up with ‘But that doesn’t mean it’s better’.
Household work could be a lot stressful in fact, this is where most women’s stress comes from, not children. Marriage is a simple thing and couples should work together.